A podcast for families who are experiencing difficulties in their relationships. Family Relationship Coach, Tina Gosney gives you accessible and practical tools that you can use to repair and improve the relationship you have with your difficult family members. This podcast is the perfect mix of learning, action items, and coaching, to give you the help you need.
Episode 132 – Defensiveness The seventh Losing Strategy is being defensive. When we get defensive, we are going to war with the other person. We put on our armor and we gather our weapons. Defensiveness comes from our inability or our refusal to take a look at ourselves and self-confront.
Episode 131 – Resentful or Costly Accommodation The sixth Losing Strategy is Resentful or Costly Accommodation. This happens when we collapse who we are into what we think other people want us to be. We deny our own needs and desires, and we give up or refuse to look at
Episode 130 – Withdrawing from a Relationship The fifth Losing Relationship Strategy in this series is – Withdrawal. When we withdraw from a relationship, we are disinvesting in it. When we are criticizing and fighting, we are still invested in the relationship. Withdrawal is a sign that we’ve given up and
Episode 129 – Punishment and Retaliation – Losing Strategy #4 The fourth losing relationship strategy is Punishment and retaliation. This can show up in covert and overt ways, but at its core, we turn ourselves into a victim of the other person and we are then feeling justified in withholding
Episode 128 Unbridled Self-expression The third Losing Relationship Strategy in this series is – Unbridled Self-expression. When you were growing up, was there someone in your home who ruled the atmosphere of the home with the way their words or emotions came spilling out? What was that like for you? When
Episode 127 – The Sneaky Ways You Are Trying to Control Other People Part 2 of Losing Relationship Strategies is all about how we try to control the way other people think of us, the way we try to control what other people do, and how we are trying to
Episode 126 – Needing to be Right Our brains have a natural need to be right, and that comes from the way we take in our experiences and make meaning of them. We each have a different way of taking in experiences and how we make meaning of them, and
Episode 125 Finding the Progress in Your Life This is part 4 in a 4-part series on setting relationship goals. You can accomplish less than you think you’re supposed to in the short-term and much more than you think you can in the long-term. Relationships are not sprints; they are
Episode 124 The What, How, and Why of Setting a Relationship Goal This is part 3 in a 4-part series on setting relationship goals. This episode gets down to the nitty-gritty of what to focus on, how to create a system that works, and how to stay focused on what
Episode 123 Who You Think You Are Determines What You Do This is part 2 in a 4-part series on setting relationship goals. This episode is all about using your identity – who you believe you are – to help you make the changes you want vs. trying to force
Episode 132 – Defensiveness The seventh Losing Strategy is being defensive. When we get defensive, we are going to war with the other person. We put on our armor and we gather our weapons. Defensiveness comes from our inability or our refusal to take a look at ourselves and self-confront.
Episode 131 – Resentful or Costly Accommodation The sixth Losing Strategy is Resentful or Costly Accommodation. This happens when we collapse who we are into what we think other people want us to be. We deny our own needs and desires, and we give up or refuse to look at
Episode 130 – Withdrawing from a Relationship The fifth Losing Relationship Strategy in this series is – Withdrawal. When we withdraw from a relationship, we are disinvesting in it. When we are criticizing and fighting, we are still invested in the relationship. Withdrawal is a sign that we’ve given up and
Episode 129 – Punishment and Retaliation – Losing Strategy #4 The fourth losing relationship strategy is Punishment and retaliation. This can show up in covert and overt ways, but at its core, we turn ourselves into a victim of the other person and we are then feeling justified in withholding
Episode 128 Unbridled Self-expression The third Losing Relationship Strategy in this series is – Unbridled Self-expression. When you were growing up, was there someone in your home who ruled the atmosphere of the home with the way their words or emotions came spilling out? What was that like for you? When
Episode 127 – The Sneaky Ways You Are Trying to Control Other People Part 2 of Losing Relationship Strategies is all about how we try to control the way other people think of us, the way we try to control what other people do, and how we are trying to
Episode 126 – Needing to be Right Our brains have a natural need to be right, and that comes from the way we take in our experiences and make meaning of them. We each have a different way of taking in experiences and how we make meaning of them, and
Episode 125 Finding the Progress in Your Life This is part 4 in a 4-part series on setting relationship goals. You can accomplish less than you think you’re supposed to in the short-term and much more than you think you can in the long-term. Relationships are not sprints; they are
Episode 124 The What, How, and Why of Setting a Relationship Goal This is part 3 in a 4-part series on setting relationship goals. This episode gets down to the nitty-gritty of what to focus on, how to create a system that works, and how to stay focused on what
Episode 123 Who You Think You Are Determines What You Do This is part 2 in a 4-part series on setting relationship goals. This episode is all about using your identity – who you believe you are – to help you make the changes you want vs. trying to force
