I’m probably a lot like you.
I married you, had 4 children by the time I was in my mid-30’s, and from the outside, I looked like I had life under control.
But on the inside, felt like I was stacking Jenga blocks precariously higher and higher and it was just a matter of time before they came crashing down.
Inside my brain was a constant barrage of thoughts like:
Why did I say that? I’m so stupid. I should just keep my mouth shut.
I’ll never be as smart/thin/pretty/talented as her.
My house must be clean all the time or I can’t have anyone come over.
No matter how hard I try, I’ll never be good enough.
I have to work harder and be better.
Maybe I should just give up trying.
I knew at any moment, I would be found out – that I didn’t belong and I wasn’t worth it.
I had been trying to earn my place and feeling of being enough by working harder, keeping up with what I thought I was supposed to do, but it never worked.
The bar of “good enough” was always just beyond my reach, no matter how hard I worked.
I felt lonely all the time, even when I was surrounded by people.
My perfectionism kept me from truly and authentically embracing my life, my marriage, and my family.
And then the Jenga blocks came crashing down and I knew I couldn’t keep up the carefully curated image I had portrayed for so long.
That’s when I found coaching for the first time.
Coaching was a gift from loving Heavenly Parents.
But that was just the beginning.
I needed to learn who I was without any achievements or any “doing.”
This went beyond what I learned in my faith community. I needed vital tools and skills I didn’t have, and I was driven to find out and learn as much as I could so I would be able to finally find peace and feel like I was enough.
I’ve made it past those dark days, and I now know who I am and why life was such a struggle.
I’m so grateful for that struggle because it brought me to where I am and where my family is today.
It’s so easy to fall into the trap of trying to be perfect. After all, perfectionism is society’s favorite flaw.
We are constantly told we need to try harder, be better, have more, and that it should be easy.
We are not allowed to be human beings with disappointments, emotions, failures, and hard-won successes.
If you’re like me and you’re tired of being on the “never good enough no matter what” train, it’s time to get off and embrace an authentic, wholehearted life.
Set up an appointment with me and we can see together if we are a good fit to work together.
If you’re new to coaching, you’re like most of my clients.
Maybe you’ve been hearing about coaching and you’re curious and wondering if coaching is right for you.
I work with most clients for a few months at a time, but maybe you aren’t ready for that commitment yet.
If this sounds like you, I hear you. Before I tried coaching, I thought the same thing.
I offer an introductory coaching call for only $25.
On this call, you can bring your hardest relationship issue and we’ll work on it together. You’ll leave with new ideas, a plan to move forward, and you’ll feel so much better.